Is everyone around you is suddenly pressurizing you to have a baby? Are you scared about the biological clock ticking? Or do you just want it because all your friends have babies? Having a baby isn’t a cakewalk and not as glamours and fun as it may look on social media. bring another life is one of the most beautiful moment a mother can feel but one should be absolutely sure about bring that life.
Here are a few questions that will help you determine if you are ready to be a mom.
Is your relationship healthy?
One of the most important factor before becoming a mom is to know how your relationship with your partner is. Every relationship has its share of issues. Starting from arguments, money issues, compatibility, intimacy and many more. What most people think is having a baby can fix all their problems which is completely illogical. Not having parents with a healthy relationship has a negative effect on the child. No couple should decide to have a baby until they have solved all their relationship differences. Happy parents make happy children. Deciding to have a baby at a time when your relationship is rocky is not a healthy environment for the baby. Sitting down with your partner and communicating can solve a number of problems. Healthy relationship makes pregnancy and parenthood very precious and easy.
Is it because of society’s pressure?
After a certain age or after getting married people to start pressurizing you about having a baby, sometimes even your partner. Your very close family members start to expect you to have a baby. Peer pressure from the society about haveing a baby is pretty high. Make sure you don’t just want a baby because of all the pressure. Motherhood is a beautiful journey but only when you want it. Letting society pressure you into having a baby is the wrong decision for you and the baby. You need to be mentally and physically be ready to be a mother and no society can decide that for you.
Are you financially ready?
This one is an important one which most couples don’t consider discussing and thinking they can manage it all, having a kid isn’t a normal regular expense that you can afford without having a proper saving. Starting from day one of the pregnancy is it expensive. As a parent, you want to give the best to your kid and get your fianances right helps you achieve that in a mych organised way.
Are you ready for the responsibility?
Taking responsibility of a baby is not easy and we all know that, but what we don’t know is that it is even harder then it looks like. Taking care of all their needs, their health and most importantly, raising them as a responsible individual. Raising a kid with responsibility is both the parents the parent’s job and how the two of you will manage it is also something that should be discussed before you decide on having a baby.
Do you know how to parent?
Babies don’t come with a written manual it would be much better if they did. A baby is going to test your patience almost every day. You should be able to handle the baby and know how to parent it before you even consider it. Playing with your nieces and nephews isn’t the same as having a baby of your own it is completely different world.
Are you ready to give things up for your baby?
Part of being a good parent is feeling good about ourselves for being able to provide what a child needs even when it means putting off something we want to have. You will have to end number thing for the needs of your baby, not such things but your life all together will be different after the baby arrives, you’ll have to cancel plans, lose sleep, sacrifice thing that you want for the baby. It is not easy to be a parent, and before you want to plan being one make sure you are ready to give things up.
Being a mom is the greatest thing in the world. before you start your journey of motherhood make sure you answer these questions to yourself and know for sure if you are ready.